RESTORING PURITY
Purity is important for the individual as well as to the courtship process. It speaks of your covenantal relationship with Christ, whose bride you are. It is also the tablet upon which the rest of your marital relationship is written. But suppose, as you read this blog, you have already surrendered you virginity. God has not dumped you on an ash heap. He has made provision for you. He is faithful to forgive if you seek him with your whole heart.
God can restore you to purity if that is your fervent desire. You do not have to keep doing what you have done. (Convincing your body of that is another matter.) Decide now to put aside sin, confess, repent, and ask forgiveness. If you are intimate with a current partner, express your intentions to him. If you decide to stay together declare a period of separation so that you can fast and pray. Come back together with a new standard for your dating behavior. If possible, meet with a clergyman or counselor at your church. Ask for a couple who will walk this out with you.
This process will be very hard. But it will be worth it. If you are able to do this you will accrue all of the benefits afforded a celibate courtship. You will also have honored each other with this gift of sacrifice that will strengthen your relationship. God bless you.
Abstaining from sex alone will not make a bad relationship into a good one, anymore than having sex will. It does help you to see your relationship more clearly. It allows you to make necessary changes within the relationship and it becomes the basis of trust. Keeping your courtship pure means purity of thought as well as actions. Ask friends to help you stay on track. Pray without ceasing that your mind as well as your body will honor God and your partner.
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