Q and A

Question from Email re: a two year relationship

Hi,

I have a question? Why do relationships have to be so difficult?  The guy I am currently seeing acts like he does not care whether I stay or go so I have decided to go on with my reassignment to either Italy or Spain next summer. I cannot put my life on hold until he decides if I am the one he wants to marry. Life is too short.  If its God's will that we are together then He will work it out. I am done. IR

 

Dear IR,

Relationships are hard.  Many men want the company of a woman with little commitment.  Your guy doesn't even want the responsibility of ending the relationship.  He is making you make the decision while he pretends to be supportive of your career.  If he wanted things to continue he would let you know.  He doesn't seem to want to put in much work.  Have you always made life very easy for him?  Has he depended on you to keep things interesting?  If he has been single for a long time he may want to go with the flow and just chill. If he doesn't have you around he will probably find someone else to make his life easy.  If what I am saying rings true he is probably not a good candidate for a life partner.  You may as well make the decision that works best for you. It is also okay to ask a direct question about where the relationship is headed